The context of what you say is as important as….

One of the things I have long believed is that everyone should have to spend a year as a public school teacher. I have in recent years amended that to everyone should serve in one of the following roles at least once in their career. Police/Fire or first responders of any form, Military in any form or being a public school teacher. Why?

Each of those professions teaches you to approach people differently. To access quickly the situation and respond in a measured and effective manner. Don’t walk from the problems that impact you right now, because they are going to get worse if left untended. Problems don’t improve with age. They simmer and bubble and eventually create the caldron of hate.

It isn’t feasible, my belief. There aren’t enough jobs in the professions listed for everyone to be in them. But it would help solve a number of communication and interaction problems we have in our world. It is about building, maintaining and improving structure and order. People are really hard to build order around. They like the many facets of the world they are a part of and consume.

Communication is such an integral part of how we enter this world. Things that impact us as people are so often wound around communication. The conversation where the person dismisses your feelings ends up spinning you into a deeply negative thought process. Why? You think. Why you ponder? Why you ask over and over and over and over. Until you realize that the why isn’t anything to do with you. The why of communication is always one of two things. Something between the two of you, or something between the two of you.

Ok so it’s really one thing. Between the two of you. Communication is about the connection of two people. Even one to many communication is still a connection. It either resonates with you or it doesn’t. That resonation is the connection. That connection or lack of connection changes the communication. Sometimes we listen to a speaker and we wonder if they speaking to us. Sometimes we begin formulating arguments against what they are saying, because they are speaking near us but not with us. Communication is such a fragile framework.

That’s why I believe everyone should have a balance of teaching and first responder/military training. It gives you the ability to build and understand teams. In building a team to expand that team and make it stronger. It gives you a framework for the communication you are driving and delivering.

I won’t argue the need for ethics. I believe ethics are a given. Organizations that have systemic ethics issues have many other issues as well. Ethics drives so many communication processes and interactions that you can’t hide that behind false communication. That one to many, when I don’t trust or believe you is nearly impossible to bridge. It becomes a gap and that gap is ethics.

Back to my beginning theme, for me there is a missing piece that impacts people. That quick ability to access a situation and respond with that situation. That’s why I believe teachers, first responders and military trained professionals are successful beyond their original professions. They are trained to calmly access the situation and quickly get to the root cause. Clear, concise communication with the intent of sharing and solving quickly.

My final conclusion, having grown up in an educator’s home (the inquiry method) and having learned the OODA Loop modeling later, there are many points of intersection. OODA Loops are designed to improve decision making. The inquiry model is designed to get students interested, involved, engaged and learning. Both end up with the same result, connected communication.

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communications dreamer