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An interesting email yesterday about the building of an ego tower. Part 1, does blogging about the existence of the “ego towers” count as a brick in my ego tower? If it does, then hopefully by blogging about it, it also counts as a stick of dynamite at the base of my tower. Everyone has an ego house, few of us build ego towers. If I have an ego tower, then I have to blow it up.
This brings up the second question in the email that I found intriguing. “Is the difference between an ego house and an ego tower simply the reality of insecurity.” I have to say I’ve been thinking about that since I got the email yesterday afternoon.
An ego house has windows and stops at a certain point. Whatever size house you’ve built it is finite. Like the tower of Babel, an ego tower is infinite. That would be the major differences. Look we all have ego houses. There is no question that every human being that has ever lived as built an ego house. The people building the ego towers, like the dancing bears on unicycles are the one’s we have to watch out for.
So what are the warning signs?
- You take over calls regardless of who is on the call.
- You use we a lot referring to yourself and what you are doing. Implying a greater value to what you are doing than is actually there.
- You change your role to reflect overall great importance.
So I’ve been building an ego tower, how do I stop?
- The first thing to do is stop talking and start asking other people questions and let them speak. It means you’ve at least blown an opening into your ego tower when you do that.
- Record yourself while on a conference call or at a meeting. Do you say we a lot? Then work on that one by saying I, instead of we.
- Enter the room with the heart of the servant. You will leave the room wiser.